Relationship Coaching - questions and answers

Surprisingly, couple coaching can occur even when only one of the couple is coming. A marital relationship is a relative (relative) system in which we and our spouses are very much influenced (mostly unconsciously) by the feelings, thoughts, beliefs and of course the behaviors of the other.

To start a change in relationship, shift, healing, often enough that only one of the couple takes responsibility for his / her place in the relationship and his / her level of satisfaction from him / her, creates clarity for himself, strengthens, clarifies his desires, and works on his / her parts of the relationship - to motivate The other side to the action as well.

A change in one of the family members / the couple inevitably creates a new dynamic in the home. There is of course no certainty in which direction the displacement will take place, but it can be assumed that in case there is a real desire and a desire to develop and correct, even if there are of course difficulties, the other side will be affected, and in some cases even join the process.

Today there are many methods in the field of couple therapy and coaching.

As a rule, a coach does not treat and the training approach is at eye level when the trainee is the life expert and the coach's job is to help him connect to the sources of power and strength within him and act from them.

However, couple coaching is a field of knowledge where couples learn and assimilate new knowledge from the field of relationships.

This is a relatively short-term process in which real tools are given to change the behavior in the relationship. The couple is exposed to new knowledge, close communication, changing limiting perceptions and beliefs, and equipping themselves with behavioral-practical tools that will help them overcome the challenges between them in a good and loving way.

As a rule, differences do not necessarily indicate a mismatch.

In fact, 70 percent (!) Of the conflicts between the spouses are inconsistent and stem from inherent differences in perceptions, values, family / cultural background, and more and more.

The aspiration in couple coaching is to bridge the gap in cases where it is possible, and to learn to live well together within the space of disagreement, in cases where it is not possible to bridge the gap.

The aspiration is to create an imperfect relationship (since neither of us is perfect) - but happy and good.

There are cases where couples arrive for training too late, when the resentment is already growing and the opportunity for correction is less possible, or the decision has already been made but want to "make V" for couple therapy. Separation is also a couple act and can definitely be done in a respectful way, especially when children are involved.

It is important to remember that a breakup is not a failure. The purpose of a relationship in our lives is not to survive and necessarily to last but to move us on a journey of personal development. Of course our ambition is to do this together, but there are certainly cases where our significant development and personal progress happens precisely out of a decision to leave and start over.

The coaching process can help the couple, together and separately, embark on a new path, come to terms with the end of the relationship and accompany them on their new path.